Friday, November 17, 2006


Who would have though that Matt Fay, a true picture of health, has been diagnosed with Cancer. Last Thursday I'm in the security line of Regan National Airport when my father calls to 'keep me up to speed' as he says. They found out that Matt had a 4 inch mass in his abdomen. I had to struggle to keep it together. Seeing how this was the third cancer diagnosis of my three closest male family members this year, I've learned the word 'compartmentalize'. I called him when I arrived at my destination to tell him I love him. That's about all I know to say.

So I determine that the next 'step' is Monday, where the results of the biopsy will be back. Work on Monday morning was compartmentalized. It was Mom who called. Found out then that it in-fact was malignant and we're waiting for a response from Mayo.

Yesterday they took a PET Scan to get a picture where it was in the body.

Today they met with doctors and determined the type of cancer is Demoplastic which is in the Sarcoma family.

I just got off the phone with Mom, waiting for the results from the PET scan.

As you can see, my comments on these 'steps', I have dwindled down to just facts. My form of compartmentalizing. Between those facts I've been made aware and recieved the support and prayers of an overwhelming amount of friends and family. Those are all appreciated, welcomed, requested, and uplifting.

As the waiting game begins, we will try and make this the central point of information flow. I know it's important to keep your chin up. So chin up.



Trish said...

Way to go Ian. A central line of cummunication is vital. We're all on the edge of our chairs. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and most of all Matt. Love you all. T&T

Alicia said...

Miracles happen every day. Believe and keep your spirits up.

All of our love and long distance prayers and support.

Jack said...

Matt, just want you to know that we are thinking about you every day and we all love you. I know you know how we feel-- even the (male)ones of us who express our affection through hazing. You are high on our hazing meter. Keep the faith.

Anonymous said...

Ian ..Matt and your family are in my thoughts and prayers every second of the day . The Fay's are survivors ..I know Matt will beat this. Let me know if I can help you or your family in any way .

Anonymous said...

Dear Fay Family- Ian, as a sister I can guess how worried you are and how helpless you must feel for your family... the "I love you" always helps as you said-- Greg and Nancy, as a parent I assume that you are heartbroken that your son is faced with this and you cannot "fix" it for him-- and Matthew, I want you to know that I am hoping for the best for you- I now know THREE men in my family that have tackled and fended off cancer- you can do it too with the help of good doctors/medicine and good spirits! My well wishes and thougths are with all of you, love, Dawn

Amy M said...

We are all praying for you throughout each day. We know that the Lord's healing will pass through you and restore you to a fullness for His purpose. Keep your eyes on HIM and know that you are being covered in prayer all over this country. We All Love You!!! Your Cousin....Amy

Anonymous said...

Greg, Nancy, Ian, and Matt,
We have you in our hearts....please keep us informed and let us know if we can do anything at all. When my Mom had cancer (twice!), I remember feeling so helpless and out of control. Now that she's about to be a grandmother, I am reminded that miracles DO happen and people ARE stronger than they think they are. You are a tough family....with a lot of people praying for you.

Anonymous said...

Matt and Ian - It was so good to see you all on Sunday!!! It was such a special blessing. Matt, I hope you know we are praying hard for a miracle in this circumstance. It's difficult to know what to say, but you are in our thoughts and prayers and on our hearts every day.

We love you and will continue to pray for you all!